That we can’t go beyond what meets the eyes is not only an indication that we are perfect human beings ,but also a blessing that unfortunately go unnoticed by us. At times , we wish we could read others like an open book and see inside their hearts to know their real intentions, their hidden thoughts and true feelings to spare ourselves deception and disappointment , loss and pain. And we go on to wonder why Allah didn’t infuse us with that majestic power which is something easy for him, “The Originator of the heavens and the earth . When He decrees a matter, He only says “BE!” – and it is. [Noble Quran 2:117] . We need to remember that whatever Allah does, is for our best. Allah says :’…and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.’ (Surah Baqarah: 216) .Imagine that people can read your mind in the same way you can read theirs .There might be dreadful secrets you don’t want to share or dark thoughts you don’t want others to hear or speak of, in that some secrets are too dreadful that the most trustworthy friends would shun you because of them and some thoughts are too painful that they can kill like a son’s feverish wish that his sick father dies soon to inherit his lands , a husband’s past love affairs or a saint’s criminal past .This may explain why most of the people don’t say what they think or say what they think you want to hear or they just keep their opinions to themselves to spare themselves trouble and spare others pain .The prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم (May peace be upon him) said :”a good word is better than silence and silence is better than evil talks!.” The same issue was highlighted in Ephesians 4:29 “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”Also,by not letting others step into your inner world , Allah is giving you a space of your own to reconsider your thoughts before you act, for once a dark thought is translated into a word or an action ,it cannot be effaced from people’s memory for our actions define us , even if people forgive us ,they will never ever forget and they will always remind us of our misdeeds even if they are as old as the hills . It’s necessary to reconsider our thoughts ,opinions before we speak and act .This will help us to wipe out evil thoughts and embrace good ones, and that we sometimes say or do what we do not really think or mean proves that we can control our thoughts as well. Then when negative thoughts about others go through your head ,try to put yourself in their shoes to understand why they behave they way they do . Also, try to count your gains once your real intentions are revealed and you will find out that it is a zero -sum game .Whereas your gains will outnumber your losses if your actions mirror your real intentions, good intentions. Like christians ,we muslims believe that every man has with him a companion from among angels and a companion from among the a (demons) as prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم May peace be upon him said “There is no one among you but he has with him a constant companion (qareen) from among the jinn and a constant companion from among the angels.” They said, “You too, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “Me too, but Allaah has helped me against him (the devil-companion) and he has become Muslim.” and the evil thoughts come from the shaitan that strives to turn us from doing good , and to not fall in his trap ,we must discard those evil thoughts by seeking refuge in Allah . Say ” I seek refuge in Allah from shaitan,the accursed one” and the evil suggestions will go away from you. Remember that you can’t blame the shaitan for your actions for you are the doer . It is related by Abu Hurairah that the Apostle of God said:“God has forgiven my followers evil thoughts and misgivings and there will be no punishment on them until they are acted upon or uttered by the tongue .Bukhari and Muslim. Do istagfar ,say ” I seek forgiveness of Allah” when you had bad thoughts .Prophet Muhammad used to recite this at least 100 times a day and used to offer night prayers till his feet became swollen. Somebody said, to him,” “Allah has forgiven you, your faults of the past and those to follow.” On that, he said, “Shouldn’t I be a thankful slave of Allah)?” (Bukhari, Hadith 4459) One also needs to understand that iternal thoughts is first and foremost Allah ‘s criteria to measure our faith and honesty towards him . Allah doesn’t judge us by our actions but by our intentions into our hearts because actions can be soaked with hypocracy in that people do things to please the creatures not the creator . Some pray to attain the pleasure of Allah while others pray to be seen by men and gain wordly recognition .The action is the same but the intentions are different, so is the reward. As prophet Muhammed صلى الله عليه وسلم (May Peace be upon him) said :”The worst of people with Allah on the day of judgment are the two-faced.” Remember that we can fool people but we can’t fool Allah who is all- hearer and all-knower .And fooling his creature is equally dangerous for being kind to others is a sign of our unconditional faith, a key to his love and our passport to heaven as prophet Muhammad said’“You will not enter paradise until you have faith. And you will not complete your faith until you love one another.” Hence Allah despises the hypocrites whose actions are not congruent with their intentions and loves those who worship him as though they see him . Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:‘if Allah loves a person, He calls Jibrael saying, ’Allah loves so and so; O Jibrael love him.’ And make an announcement amongst the inhabitants of the heaven: “Allah loves so and so therefore you should love him also, and so all the inhabitants of the heaven would love him, and then he is granted the pleasures of the people on the earth.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
So let’s wage a war against bad intentions and dark thoughts .Let’s tame them in the same way we tamed rebellious waves and conquered lofty mountains . Let our words and actions be a mirror of genuine and kind thoughts and pure intentions not only because we are blessed creatures into whom Allah breathed his soul and evil doesn’t befit us.Let’s pour into the world kindness for “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. Mother Teresa.
That he’s different from you doesn’t mean he’s subordinate to you. Difference is the fount of knowledge, enrichment and enlightenment and beauty. Allah has created legion of different species of flowering plants, animals,fish, and human. Nature taught all creatures to live in peace and harmony for in their differences lies the essence of their survival. But she failed to tame human beings whose differences set their hearts apart ,and torn the map of their souls.You can sow the field of the other and he can pick the fruits ,that allured his mind ,or soul or heart ,from yours .I’m the other ,you’re the other .I can teach you a lot about my world to understand it better and you can enlighten me about yours too in return to not tread on some traps that might ruin the bridge of harmony we’re trying to build together .Because to understand how the other’s world works, is the secret of a strong bond .So ,when the other steps into your territory ,gift him a big basket that is replete with amazing traditions, inspiring folktales ,healing stories, instead of aiming your rifle to his heart.
That she or he left you behind doesn’t mean you’re not worth his /her love .It doesn’t mean that she or he is ungrateful either. Beginnings are like delivering child ;they’re painful ,but they bear life within them . Breaking up is a beginning.It’s a sea that is replete with pearls of hope, of life,of love, and of change .You just have to bend down and gather them to make out of them a necklace to put around the life and take that crown of sadness, off her beautiful head. Remember when you look back at those days , to look at them with grateful heart ,because she or he set you free to taste the happiness that you deserve, a happiness that you didn’t know with him or her.You wish sometimes that you can turn the clock back to do things differently to make things work .You wouldn’t wish that if that person is worthless. Deep down you believe there is good in him or her,and that giving up on you doesn’t mean she /he is not . The earth never bears grudge against the earthquake ,because she knows ,it’s nature’s way to start a new beginning the next day. There is no timeless earthquake , nor timeless sadness either.