Whenever a woman asks for divorce , all point an accusing finger at her . All are all ears when narrating evil stories about her but deaf to her pleas to listen to her part of story as well. Even when she is a victim of emotional and physical violence, she shoulders most of the blame .
That wife brings marriage to closure, proves that man hasn’t praised Allah’s grace upon him . Woman is a soft creature who cherishes appreciation , respect , comfort and love. When a husband fails to teach her how to adjust in his world softly and safely she will seek another territory where she can have a space of her own or set up her own kingdom to live free from fear , abuse , prejudice and misjudgment.
A wife has countless rights over her husband, when not fulfilled , her trust and respect vanish and when they do, love perish for love is born of respect.
All women , no matter where they come from , no matter who they’re , are one and the same .They love to be tended like a rose , treasured like a precious stone , listened to like sea ripples and taken care of like a child for Allah the glorified and the exalted has created them as Prophet Muhammad peace upon him said, ” from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women.” (Sahih Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 114).
Remember , if a woman has ever trod your gracious land, to appreciate her as she is and never try to change her because putting up with her flaws or silly habits is a token of your unconditional love . Rememeber to overlook her mistakes . By doing so, you teach her to overlook and forgive yours . Remember to keep your angers secrets from her for your home is nothing but a sanctuary where only hymns of love and compassion must be sung as a woman’s soul is so soft that angry talks can break her. Spare no effort to help her with household chores . One day the Messenger of Allah peace upon him paid a visit to the house of Ali and Fatemah peace upon them . He saw that Ali was sieving the pulses and Fatemah was busy cooking. On observing this the Prophet may peace be upon him remarked, “O Ali, I do not speak except what is revealed to me. Anyone who helps his wife in her domestic affairs obtains a reward of one year of worship equal to the amount of hair on his body. This year of worship will be as if he has fasted during its days and prayed during its nights. Allah will reward him equal to the reward of all the patient ones, Hazrat Dawood (a.s.) and Hazrat Isa (a.s.).”
Marriage is a story that you can make of it a fairytale the characters in it live happily ever after just with simple but hearty and loving smiles , apologies,gifts or surprises.
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