We are like coins.Capricious life keeps tossing us mercilessly but when we fall down, we expect people watching to see both sides of us not only one , not only the ugly side.
Always the beloved beautiful daughter in law or the loving wife becomes roots of all evil and must be shunned like a leprous once signed divorce papers. Always ,the dedicated father turns into a devil’s accomplice once he disinherited his child.What about seeing the other side of the coin, that you have always enjoyed .She might be messy, but sometimes a wife becomes one when she’s torn between family obligation and work.She is in bad mood .Well a wife can be a nuisance in the neck if you try to twist her genuine self.
Try to polish the side of the coin that your anger and disappointment blinded your eyes to see , that side on which good qualities are ingrained ,qualities that you loved once upon a time and your happiness flourished in the land of them.That person is the same ,it’s your interpretation of him that has changed due to passing circumstances. We do when people do not meet our expectations which is utterly unfair because we do not live to meet any person’s standards as far as our standards do not hurt others .
His wife was messy but she was hard-working ;she tried her best .She was moody but she was understanding and loving .She never hesitated to admit to her mistake or apologise .Tame yourself to look at people from both sides and that will teach you to be fair when judging them .It will even teach you to never judge them ,for no one is entitled to be in the position of a judge, only the Lord has the right to because he’s the only one who knows what is in our heart and mind .
Remember by seeing the two sides of people in their fall down and strength ,you learn to put yourself in their shoes to understand why they act that way in that situation towards that person. By doing that you find an excuse to them as you, yourself might act the same way or feel the same way or even go too far .
When people fall down in the abyss of anger, of ingratitude,of selfishness,of lies , or misbehavior ; don’t shun them or preach them .Rather, give your hand and lift them up. And the best way to Put up with people in their worst parts is you remembering and reminding them about their best parts they played on the stage of life.
Written by arabian roses